How to make your EQ stronger ??? [EQ Vs IQ (Part 2 of 2)]

[Read : EQ Vs IQ (Part 1 of 2) ]

Hello! I hope all are doing well and hunting down your dreams every day. In my earlier blog post, I shared with you an example that how EQ is different from IQ.

We most probably are pretty much aware now that the EQ is much more important than the IQ. All the major companies around the globe do want their workforce to have a strong IQ but from past few decades, this trend has been changing. Every organization now wants to employ those candidates who qualify in IQ test but also stand par excellence to others. In the managerial levels as well, it is seen that the managers who have strong EQ tend to move up the organizational ladder much faster than their contemporaries. Emotional Intelligence is very much different from academic intelligence. Many who are book smart face difficulties in dealing with complex life situations in future just because they forget about strengthening their emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence is simply referred to as the ability of which one can remain poised, serene and calm amidst various troubles happening in his/ her life. It can also be defined as the ability of a person to be stable inside when the outside seems to have fallen apart.

So how do we make our EQ stronger?

I suggest you, the following tips to focus on for a few days to make yourself much stronger in EQ than others. Before reading below just remember this formula:-

      EQ = SELF WORTH

I’ll explain later why I have put this formula for you to consider.

1)    Give Love to yourself.

Many times it happens that we give love to others to such a great extent, be it in an imagination or in an outer world, that we ourselves make us empty from inside. This habit of loving others than they love you back should only be adopted if your own cup is filled to the full.

2)    Practice the wonderful habit of gratitude.

We don’t need all that money to be happy. Do we? We don’t even need to have a super luxury car to make ourselves happy. Yes, these material things are important in life and they do add to the spice in life. But many times we forget about saying”Thank You” for what we have. If you have a loving family, you are blessed. If you have food on your table, feel blessed. If you have a roof over your head and two eyes to read this blog post, you are truly blessed. Many don’t even have this privilege.

3)    Expect less.

Expectations are big culprits in robbing us off from our self-worth. It does feel bad when someone whom we cared a lot doesn’t give us back that same love and care. Read my blog post (titled : Why do we get hurt) to know more on this point. A simple rule to follow: Other than those who care for you, give what you get from them. That is a sure way to make yourself stand for yourself in times of difficulties. Letting people walk over you isn’t what true leaders do. They are friendly, yet super firm and deeply connected to their core values, of which self-worth comes among the most important ones.

4)    Burn out all past hurts and worries.

  Bruce Lee used to apply this technique during his tough times. He always used to write down his worries on a piece of paper and then burn up that paper. According to him, that burning paper would make him feel as if his worries and tensions are getting burned. This technique has helped me innumerable times to get past all negative emotions and exude passion and vitality in the world around me.

5)    Spend Alone Time.

For an hour every week, be alone. Switch off your cell phones. Go away from your family. Be very, very hard to reach. Shut out all noises to listen to the voice within you. Be alone for some hours. You can either go to a coffee shop or sit down on a bench in a park. Now rest your mind there. Think about your dreams. Think of yourself as a businessman and get into deep thinking mode to reflect on your ways of doing things and ask yourself if they are in line with your dreams or not. In this deep abyss of self-love, you will figure out who you truly are and what you are meant to be in life. Trust me, you will grow exponentially, you’ll figure out what actually gives you that adrenaline rush, you’ll discover your innate talents, you’ll experience true bliss after this exercise. You will then develop your own crystal clear clarity with which you will gift yourself the most beautiful gift of having a pristine mindset. 

6)    Last, but by no means the least, Dedicate yourself to something higher than just living your days. Serve the humanity. Discover your talents. Dedicate yourself to making this work a better place than you found it and if you cannot do it, will your living make any difference? Leave behind a legacy. Be kind to strangers. Respect humanity. Smile at your colleagues. Make a new friend every day. In the end, all that matters is how kind your heart truly is.

These were the Super Six that will lift you up in your EQ.

Remember that formula?

Revisit it and connect that formula to each one of these points, you’ll notice that how our Emotional Quotient is directly connected to our Self Worth.

Hope my ideas will provide you with some beautiful changes to make into your daily habits. DO them. Revisit this blog post as many times you feel the need of the push. Am here for you always.

Dream. Dare. Shine.

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.